Teach men not to rape? Teach women not to make false rape claims and ruin peoples lives. And not to lie. Or overreact. Or destroy other peoples property. Or encourage and praise other women who do it.
HOW ABOUT NO. HOW ABOUT YOU QUIT LOOKING FOR EXCUSES TO ALWAYS BLAME THE WOMAN AND TAKE FAULT FROM THE MAN. HOW ABOUT WE TEACH OUR SONS TO RESPECT WOMEN, AND HOW ABOUT WE QUIT USING CASES LIKE THIS TO VALIDATE MEN RAPING WOMEN AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT. HOW ABOUT THE NUMBER OF CASES IN WHICH A WOMAN’S BODY WAS ACTUALLY VIOLATED SO INCREDIBLY OUTWEIGH CASES OF FALSELY REPORTED RAPE THAT IT’S NOT EVEN FUNNY. HOW ABOUT YOU JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP BECAUSE YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT YOU’RE EVEN TALKING ABOUT, YOU MISOGYNISTIC RAPE-CULTURE PROMOTING ASSHOLE.
False rape accusations hurt actual rape victims you thickheaded egghead.
ARE YOU GOING TO DISREGARD HOW SHE DESTROYED HIS PRIVATE PROPERTY AND CHEATED ON HIM THE MONTH BEFORE?
"HOW ABOUT NO. HOW ABOUT YOU QUIT LOOKING FOR EXCUSES TO ALWAYS BLAME THE WOMAN AND TAKE FAULT FROM THE MAN. HOW ABOUT WE TEACH OUR SONS TO RESPECT WOMEN, AND HOW ABOUT WE QUIT USING CASES LIKE THIS TO VALIDATE MEN RAPING WOMEN AND GETTING AWAY WITH IT. HOW ABOUT THE NUMBER OF CASES IN WHICH A WOMAN’S BODY WAS ACTUALLY VIOLATED SO INCREDIBLY OUTWEIGH CASES OF FALSELY REPORTED RAPE THAT IT’S NOT EVEN FUNNY. HOW ABOUT YOU JUST SHUT THE FUCK UP BECAUSE YOU OBVIOUSLY HAVE NO FUCKING CLUE WHAT YOU’RE EVEN TALKING ABOUT, YOU MISOGYNISTIC RAPE-CULTURE PROMOTING ASSHOLE. "
How about you stop living in fairyland where all women are flawless princesses and men are all big bad evil rapers? False rape cases don’t invalidate actual rape cases, false rape accusers invalidate actual rape cases. Sit the fuck down, because
In 1989, Gary Dotson became the United States’ first innocent prisoner to be exonerated through DNA evidence. Dotson had already served 10 years of a 25-50 year sentence for aggravated kidnapping and rape. Although his accuser recanted her story in 1985 and said she made it up to cover a sexual encounter with her boyfriend, a judge refused to order a new trial, saying that the complainant’s original testimony was more convincing than her recantation. In 1988, Dotson’s defense attorney conducted previously unavailable DNA tests, which ultimately proved his innocence. An innocent man served 10 years for a crime he didn’t commit, and which even his accuser admitted never even happened. One study shows that between 1989 and 2003, 328 men and women convicted of rape were exonerated; over half of those had already served 10 or more years of their sentence, despite their innocence.
False rape accusations are serious, potentially destroying the lives of the accused. While some organizations show that only 2% of rape claims are unfounded, other research shows false rape claims to be as high as 43%. The FBI’s 1996 Uniform Crime Report states that 8% of forcible rape claims are unfounded, compared with the 2% average for all other crimes. The FBI statistic only accounts for forcible rape charges determined to be false through investigation. It does not take into consideration the number of other false sexual assault claims or the number of accusations recanted or dismissed at trial.
Locally, the OSBI reported 1,453 rape offenses in Oklahoma in 2008. If the FBI statistic that 8% of rape claims are unfounded holds true, that means there are potentially 116 Oklahomans wrongfully accused and convicted of rape each year.
Some victims’ advocates claim that women don’t lie about rape; however, recent high-profile cases have proven that to be untrue. Kobe Bryant, Ben Roethlisberger, and the Duke Lacrosse team represent only a few of the incidents of false allegations of rape that have received national media attention.
Some reasons accusers lie about being rape include:
- spite or revenge
- an alibi for their own sexual encounters
- a ploy for sympathy or attention
- regret over sexual indiscretions
'Bullied to death' for daring to stand up to drug dealers: Schoolboy, 16, died after he was falsely accused of raping a girl by yobs who terrorised his neighbourhood(http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2517975/Schoolboy-16-killed-falsely-accused-tying-girl-tree-raping-her.html)
Nurse jailed for 22 months after falsely accusing her grandfather of raping her as a child in order to claim inheritance cash (http://www.dailyrecord.co.uk/news/crime/nurse-jailed-22-months-after-2995382)
Mich. woman gets prison for false rape report(http://www.boston.com/news/nation/2014/01/17/mich-woman-false-rape-case-get-sentence/iGYv9vzjki3Z4bH85TYgPM/story.html) Brian Banks, Jailed On False Rape Charge, Sees Dream Come True As Atlanta Falcons Sign Him(http://www.laweekly.com/informer/2013/04/03/brian-banks-jailed-on-false-rape-charge-sees-dream-come-true-as-atlanta-falcons-sign-him) GREELEY — A former University of Northern Colorado student who was banned from campus because of a false accusation of rape is now suing his accuser.(http://www.denverpost.com/news/ci_11973765)
Don’t falsely accuse someone of rape, get compensated for it, recant your statement and then expect a school district not to come for the money they gave you. Wanetta Gibson, the woman who accused Brian Banks of rape, is learning this the hard way.(http://www.clutchmagonline.com/2013/04/wanetta-gibson-lawsuit-school-sues-woman-over-false-rape-accusation/)
Virginia Woman Falsely Accuses Man Of Rape And Sends Him Away For Four Years Before Recanting … Given Just 60 Days In Jail To Be Served On Weekends(http://jonathanturley.org/2013/08/20/virginia-woman-falsely-accuses-man-of-rape-and-sends-him-away-for-four-years-before-recanting-given-just-60-days-in-jail-to-be-served-on-weekends/)
Hawkins’ arrest came after Jennifer Valenta, 28, of Wilber told authorities she was raped by four men, including Hawkins. Investigators later determined her injuries from the alleged attack were self-inflicted, and she admitted to fabricating the rape. She pleaded no contest to evidence tampering, false reporting and attempted prostitution and was sentenced earlier this year to 32 to 60 months in prison.(http://journalstar.com/news/local/911/court-dismisses-nebraska-man-s-false-rape-lawsuit/article_ff0a3fe8-6fbe-528e-b877-89ea123bf4b0.html)
A Canfield couple has sued the city of Canfield and some of its police officers and brass and an assistant Mahoning County prosecutor for at least $5 million in federal court, saying their 11-year daughter was maliciously prosecuted and falsely imprisoned on rape charges, of which she was later acquitted.(http://www.vindy.com/news/2013/apr/24/federal-lawsuit-states-canfield-girl—fa/)
A Wymore man wrongfully accused of sexual assault is asking for a jury trial to assess damages done by Gage County and several sheriff’s deputies.(http://www.cotwa.info/2013/01/wymore-man-sues-after-false-rape.html)
Copperfield, 53, heralded Carroll’s arrest as proof that the woman was a liar and a gold-digger, interested only in extorting money from Copperfield and cashing in on her allegations. In a statement prepared after consulting with their client, Copperfield attorneys Patty Eakes and Angelo Calfo on Tuesday said Carroll “admitted to lying to police about the rape because she had to. Her lies were caught on tape, so she plea-bargained her way out of a jail sentence. “Her guilty plea shows that her claim that she was blacked out was nothing more than another Lacey Carroll hoax,” they said. “Now she’s a convicted liar; she’s a disgrace to women who have been truly victimized.” (http://www.davidcopperfieldsetstherecordstraight.com/)
Man Awarded $852,000 in Civil Court After Ex-Wife Falsely Accuses Him of Sexual Abuse(http://www.shrink4men.com/2011/08/16/man-awarded-852000-in-civil-court-after-ex-wife-falsely-accuses-him-of-sexual-abuse/)
The family of a 16-year-old girl who accused a Highland Park High School senior of raping her responded Monday to his family’s defamation lawsuit, saying it was “replete with nasty allegations designed to embarrass and cause distress.”(http://www.dallasnews.com/news/community-news/park-cities/headlines/20130429-girls-family-countersues-after-facing-defamation-suit-for-rape-allegations.ece)
The blogosphere is abuzz with controversy over a Beaverton, Oregon’s judge’s sentencing of a 19-year-old woman for filing false rape charges.(http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/oregon_teen_sentenced_for_false_rape_charge/)
A University’s Shame: How Brown betrayed one of its students(http://brown-spectator.com/2012/05/a-universitys-shame-how-brown-betrayed-one-of-its-students/) Park Si Hoo Is Cleared Of All Charges Stemming From Anti-Defamation Lawsuit Filed By The CEO Of His Former Talent Agency(http://www.kpopstarz.com/articles/35307/20130722/park-si-hoo-lawsuit.htm) False accusation will cost woman $55,000(http://www.vcstar.com/news/2010/jan/02/55000-ordered-paid-for-false-accusation/) Husband falsely accused of child rape wins $1.2 million from ex-spouse(http://mkg4583.wordpress.com/2009/08/23/husband-falsely-accused-of-child-rape-wins-1-2-million-from-ex-spouse/)
Mohammad Asif: “I keep thinking, ‘I just dropped her off, she was just a normal passenger, why has she done that?” -accused by said passenger of raping her at knifepoint - would be in jail except was exonerated by voice recording app on hsi phone.
Soner Yasa: four drunk women reported to police that he had sexually assaulted them as a ploy to refuse to pay a $13 cab fare- Once again he’d be in jail if not for video surveillance in his cab. Over $13
all hail Jafar. *bows*
-the italian one
February 13, 2013 - the day Canada’s Parliament debated the zombie apocalypse. (x)
Canada, the only nation discussing the most important issues of our day.
i want to emphasize that this is not from a comedy movie, it literally happened, like in real life, in parliament, between real people
this girl literally destroys all other covers of let it go and she does it sitting down
Can I just say, as a man, that I fucking love this song. I went to see Frozen with my three young nieces, thinking it would be just another Disney movie with the same tired sexist tropes, and I was absolutely blown away when this song came up. It was so strong and positive, so “I am Woman, hear me Roar.” I never expected that from a Disney movie, even though they have slowly been making strides in this direction over the years. It caught me by surprise and I was proud to have watched it with my nieces. I was even prouder when they told me how much they loved the movie. Maybe it’s not a perfect film, but the message was strong and fairly progressive for a Disney film, and that’s honestly more important in my opinion.
Do you know what I really love about the world I’m living in? I love that my generation is one of the first generations of human beings who, in large part, have been taught from birth that hatred is wrong in any and all of its forms. For the first time ever, it feels like the majority is willing to open up to the concept that there’s something wrong with sexism, racism, hatred, stereotypes and judgments based on stereotypes. Despite there being a lot of people out there who still want to segregate and have an innate desire to find someone to hate, many of us see that this is not a healthy choice.
The fact is that we’ve got a lot of mental health issues to deal with in the world, scars from the past that we carry on with us as part of our ancestry. Instead of allowing ourselves to fall into unhealthy patterns that resemble those of an unenlightened past, we make fervent attempts to stride forward and to push the rest of humanity with us.
Sure, there are some feminists out there who think men can’t be feminists and men don’t face discrimination — but there are just as many feminists out there who understand that the movement isn’t about halting progress for men, it’s about creating an equal world in the future where men, women, and every kind of gender imaginable can live in peace without fear of persecution. As Martin Luther King Jr. once said,
"Many of our white brothers, as evidenced by their presence here today, have come to realize that their destiny is tied up with our destiny. And they have come to realize that their freedom is inextricably bound to our freedom. We cannot walk alone. And as we walk, we must make the pledge that we will always march ahead. We cannot turn back."
These words were in reference specifically to the fight for civil rights, but they are also undeniably true of the fight for gender equality, as well as every fight against evil and hatred that has a common goal of equality.
Because it is as my forefathers wrote, or at least they got it partially correct: All men are created equal. I would change those words to reflect the truth, but I feel that we as human beings can extrapolate the truth from those words, just as King did so long ago — that all HUMAN BEINGS are created equal. Regardless of your gender, your size, your religious belief, your lack of religious belief, your age, your way of life, or anything else about you that makes you different from somebody else — we are all created equal and we should all treat each other equally.
There is a great saying which has been created throughout a misinterpretation of Mahatma Gandhi’s words:
"Be the change that you want to see in the world."
He never said those words, but over the years the interpretations of his words were critically broken down into this saying by human beings like you and me. If you read the original quote this was taken from, it’s hard to see how one could get this quote from it because it is so far removed and so incredibly different. I would submit that this change is more important than given credit for, because it is a positive change for the betterment of mankind. If Gandhi were alive today, he would probably have been honored to have been misquoted with such an amazingly thought provoking line.
After all, it takes a lot of courage to be the change that you want to see in the world. It doesn’t mean supporting efforts for change by buying food with pink labels, it doesn’t mean donating toys to children, and it definitely doesn’t mean participating in a “fun run” to “race for the cure.” No, being the change that you want to see means living up to your own ideals of what you want the world to be like. If, like me, you want the world to be peaceful, understanding and accepting of all peoples, cultures, races and genders, then you yourself need to make a concerted effort to be that accepting; to understand that you are not perfect and you will eventually be hateful of someone, which means that you’ve got work to do on yourself and you should always be ever diligently doing that work with every single day of your life.
Or at least that’s my interpretation of that saying. I believe that the first step to healing mankind of its affliction of hatred is to understand with great self reflection that we are designed by those who have come before us, and that they were a confused, angry and hateful people. We carry with us centuries of hatred and misunderstanding and it is impossible to just wipe that all away by simply stating that you are “not like that.” You are, even if only in several small and seemingly insignificant ways, “like that.” We all are. We all have a lot of work to do, a lot of personal introspection on the true meaning of love and acceptance; the true meaning of equality.
I’m an atheist, and even I can see how the parable of the Christian born sinner comes into play here. We are all sinners against our own kind — we all say and do hateful things that are not productive for reasons we often can’t even begin to comprehend. Sometimes it is an act of defiance which is intended to point out the ridiculousness of such hatred, but other times it is a legitimately deep seated issue that you have because of the way that these things get passed down from generation to generation in human societies. It is inescapable, and the truth is that nobody is at fault, because your parents were just as unaware of what they were giving to you as you are unaware of what you are giving to others — they were “born sinners” and you were “born sinners.” You can’t exactly pinpoint one person in history and say that they were the root of all evil, can you?
Instead of trying to figure out where it came from, our job is to work through our issues and expedite the cause of eliminating these issues from humanity. I believe that there can be a day when we are all relatively unscathed by this kind of thing. I believe that hatred is like radiation — it slowly dies off and leaves a trace with whomever it has scorched. In the end, we’ll always be scorched in some small way and there will always be a scar, but that’s no reason to keep yourself from fighting to heal those scars.
Humanity’s greatest hope is humanity.
I feel like so many more people understand and appreciate this today than at any other time in the history of mankind. Maybe that’s just because there’s more of us around, or maybe it’s just because I’m listening to all the right people, but whatever the case may be, it gives me hope for the future to see that so many of us believe in real equality for everyone.
That’s what I love about the world I’m living in. It’s not just a silver lining, it’s a silver streak across the sky that gets bigger with every passing day — one has only to look up and see it in order to know that not all is lost. In a world with so much positivity and progress taking place, how could you possibly focus on everything that is wrong for so long that you lose yourself to negativity? We all get distracted, but don’t forget what you’re fighting for and don’t forget that no matter what happens, we’re on the right track.